Two practices I have really enjoyed are loving kindness and meditation. I have become a more optimistic person with the loving kindness practice. It has even rubbed off on my husband. Yesterday was a family birthday celebration My husband’s nephew who burglarized my mother’s home was there. His mother was also present. I did not let any negative emotions rise within me. I simply acknowledged their presence and enjoyed my meal. I did not approach them, maybe one day but for the time being I am not ready. I have not forgotten, but I forgave. I followed the steps on forgiveness pg. 339-340. I am actually going to print it along with the power point presentation for a couple of my family members.
My husband did not want to go to the dinner. You see, most of his family disowned him after he stood by my side when the burglary happened. They later asked for forgivenss and I forgave. He did as well. However the bond he once had with them may never be the same. He said yesterday that he did not want to go because they barely talk to him. I told him that they did apologize and asked both of us to forgive them. They were trying at least. He later called me back and said how good of a person I am becoming. He was going to try not to be so mean.
Mental fitness is overall helping me become a better person. I am in a better mood and I am building stronger relationships all around.
Hi Maria - The fact that you are able to take those past experiences and forgive those that hurt you is a testament to your spiritual growth. Congratulations to both you and your husband. I hope you share these practices with your teen and 11 year old so they can begin their lives with the ability to forgive and leave the past where it belongs - in the past.
ReplyDeleteBlessings,
Mary
Hello Maria,
ReplyDeleteThat is a great story. It is amazing how much better we feel when we don't judge and give other people the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes people do things because they have no other way to cope. If only we could all be so lucky to have these resources availabe to us.
Take care,
Karin
Hello Maria,
ReplyDeleteWow! You have an interesting story that I feels that you and your husband have shown compassion of forgiveness to others for want they have done. I knows that it take a while for his family to trust him.